The transition to university life can be scary, let’s be honest.
Particularly when it comes to making friends. Whether you’re an outgoing extrovert or a more reserved individual, the prospect of meeting new people at uni is a source of anxiety for many.
But don’t stress, because this guide is here to provide you with advice and insights to help you navigate the social side and establish lasting friendships during your time at uni.
Keep in mind that everyone is in the same boat – even if some appear better equipped than others in social situations. From the mayhem of freshers’ week to the cozy confines of your student accommodation, numerous opportunities await for you to connect with like-minded individuals.
Before You Start: Pre-Uni Connections
Before you even set foot on campus, there are several proactive steps you can take to kickstart your social network.
Attending university open days is an excellent way to familiarize yourself with the campus and potentially meet fellow prospective students who may become familiar faces during your first few weeks. Engaging in online forums or Facebook groups related to your university or course of study can also help you introduce yourself and start building connections before you arrive.
Additionally, selecting student accommodation that aligns with the social experience you want can greatly influence your ability to make friends at uni. If you thrive in a lively atmosphere, opt for accommodations renowned for their vibrant student life. Alternatively, if you prefer a quieter environment, seek out accommodations with designated “quieter halls” to find people like you.
Surviving Freshers’ Week: Heaven or Hell?
Freshers’ week is a whirlwind of activities, events, and social gatherings designed to help you settle into your new surroundings and meet fellow students.
It’s not all going to nightclubs and making a fool of yourself, although there is plenty of that to go around if noisy nightlife is your thing.
Attend as many events as possible, whether it’s freshers’ parties, guided tours, or even trips to local attractions like IKEA (because let’s be honest, who doesn’t need a few extra bookshelves and bags of mini Dime bars?)
While a bit of Dutch courage can help break the ice, remember that excessive drinking can do more harm than good. No one wants to be friends with the guy who peed himself!
Instead, focus on being present, engaging in conversations, and genuinely listening to others. Remember, everyone is in the same boat, so a friendly smile and genuine interest in others can go a long way.
Shared Spaces: Your Accommodation
Your student accommodation holds huge opportunities for making friends.
Start by introducing yourself to your flatmates and offering a warm welcome. Small gestures, such as keeping your bedroom door open or sharing a snack or two, can create an inviting atmosphere and build a sense of community.
Spend time in communal areas like kitchens, lounges, or gyms, as these spaces naturally facilitate conversations and interactions. Resist the urge to constantly wear headphones or bury yourself in your phone, as this can inadvertently send a signal that you’re not open to socializing.
The great thing about your living area is that you will be rooming with people on different courses, and they will bring their friends over, so if you are open to it you will end up meeting loads of people you otherwise would miss.
Classmates: Finding Your Academic Tribe
While your flatmates may be your initial social circle, it’s equally important to make connections with your classmates. It’s potentially easier too as you have at least one thing in common to talk about.
Attend course inductions, sit next to new faces during lectures, and don’t hesitate to introduce yourself. These small actions can lead to study groups, collaborative projects, and potentially lifelong friendships.
Consider organizing coffee dates or post-class meetups to get to know your coursemates better. Not only will this provide an opportunity for social interaction, but it can also create a supportive academic community where you can exchange notes, discuss assignments, and navigate the challenges of university life together.
Extracurricular: Joining Student Societies
Student societies are a vibrant hub of shared interests and passions, offering an excellent platform for making friends. The best thing about them is you will all have the same core reason for being there, so will enjoy talking about the same things.
From sports clubs to academic organizations, cultural groups to creative pursuits, there’s bound to be a society that aligns with your interests or introduces you to new hobbies.
Attending society events and meetings is a must, as it allows you to immerse yourself in a community of like-minded individuals. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try something new – you never know where your next friendship might blossom.
Beyond the Campus: Exploring Local Communities
While the university campus offers ample opportunities for social connections, venturing beyond its boundaries can also lead to unexpected friendships. This is an often overlooked aspect of university life.
Explore local clubs, classes, or interest groups that align with your hobbies or passions. Whether it’s a book club, a sports team, or an exercise class, these off-campus activities can introduce you to a diverse group of locals who share your interests.
Additionally, consider organizing day trips or outings with your new university friends. Discover hidden gems in your city, visit nearby attractions, or simply enjoy a picnic in the park. These shared experiences can strengthen existing friendships and create new peer groups.
Staying True to Your Authentic Self
Above all, make sure to stay true to who you really are.
It’s sometimes tempting to change yourself to fit in or impress others. However, the most meaningful connections stem from embracing your authentic self. Be confident in who you are, your interests, and your values.
Surround yourself with individuals who appreciate and celebrate your unique qualities, rather than those who expect you to conform to their expectations. By staying true to yourself, you’ll attract like-minded people who share your values and passions, laying the foundation for genuine and fulfilling friendships.
Trying to fit in with the wrong crowd won’t work, you won’t enjoy yourself and will always feel like a bit of an outsider. So don’t try. Trust your gut. Your people are out there, but you won’t find them if you’re spending all your time forcing it with a crowd that doesn’t suit you.